I have been reading some anti Miracle of Love web sites and as I have had a positive experience with them I am posting this in response. To be clear these are my words. They represent no one else.
--  Though I am not on the “inside” I know a lot of the members. I  read stories of people being forced to have sex, attend humiliating orgies, all sorts of things like this. My experience - everyone is fairly normal. Couples dating, some have extra friends, but I have not been invited to an orgy. Maybe I am too ugly. Picnics, bar-b-que, yes. There is an emphasis to be totally open, which includes your sexuality, but that doesn’t mean you have to have sex. Virgins can feel hot and open. Apparently some feel compelled to do sexual things. Some feel they are stuck sexually and want to break free. When encouraged to open it turns into pain. I can’t say these stories are false, just I have never seen it. I can say if you feel manipulated, don’t do it. I have an ex friend who was part of the organization. She constantly works on freeing her being sexually and places herself in situations to feel used, then blames the other person. Her life is to castrate men for her pain so she places them in the situation. So who is the manipulator? So things can happen, but in my experience not by design of the group.
-- I read about a party where the kids were putting on a singing performance and turned around and wiggled their butts at the parents. On the anti web sites people fantasized the parents are lusting after the kids and worried if there is mass incest. I was at that party. The kids were just being kids and bouncing around, and it was them being funny. I have concerns over the perverseness of the people writing this on the anti sites.
-- There are comments about the leader living in a two million dollar house. She did, with several house mates, in Hawaii where houses cost a lot. Large houses cost a lot. I live in San Diego County where inflated prices are the norm, the mean price is just over half of a million. And you don’t get a lot of property. So she wasn’t being extravagant. Well maybe living in Hawaii was, but a lot of people do that. Now she is in the snow of Colorado.
-- Couples break up around MOL. True. Couples break up all over the world. People have choices, people change. One thing MOL does do is have you take a serious look at your life. Some relationships are in name only, or in trouble, or created out of a dream that doesn’t work anymore. When a person looks at this seriously they often want change so they can mature better. This is true in many relationships. If their partner doesn’t want this then a separation is coming, or someone will lived repressed out of respect of another’s fear. Perhaps the partner was not seriously aware of the relationship. Either way, couples break up, and yes it does happen in MOL.
-- Some anti sites offer help to “deprogram” those who feel harmed by Miracle of Love. If you feel harmed I support this. I know a good therapist in San Diego that can assist in this. However what I read seems to support staying stuck and blaming. I used to be a blamer myself so I comprehend. Venting may help somewhat, but it also continues the blaming. There is something in their life extraneous to their MOL experience that needs some healing and that should be looked at. If you are considering MOL you need to know that it is very intense and demanding, and they assume you are interested in having your daily personality make room for a deeper part to surface. If you do not understand this then you may have trouble. I suspect a lot of these hurt people didn’t understand or believe in the possibility.
-- I mentioned in another topic that many  thousands have done the Miracle of Love Intensive. About 500 hang around and consider it their church, for it is a spiritual group. There are also a few hundred who say it is evil,  manipulative and warn you to run away. Then there are thousands who did it and went on about their lives. I read of people being forced to work long hours to exhaustion and being indoctrinated so they will give their lives and money totally to the mission. My personal experience is when I start working myself  too hard and get exhausted they tell me to go home and sleep. If I don't get some rest they remove me from my assignment so I can't work and tell me to get some sleep. They want me to care for myself. As for taking your money, yes they will ask you for it. The government asks for it, your church asks for it, the grocery store asks for it. I think it is better to spend money on this than on beer and cigarettes. MOL has bills to pay. Now the question - is your arm being twisted through fear or peer pressure? That depends on how you feel about it and if you are being honest with your feelings. There are some people who work to provide money to fund the organization. They are self selected and unselected. I am not rich so I give if I can afford it and feel I want to. There are some wealthy people in the organization, and yes they are asked to help. Millionaires are bugged for money all the time, that is part of their lot. Every social cause in the world tries to ask for or guilt trip them for cash to help whatever cause, though often the money only pays salaries. Maybe it is nice to be rich, but there is a burden. When you really can influence the world with money, how to deploy it can be an intense burden. Some in Miracle of Love have cash. They are asked to support it.

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